IBS and Relationships
When you have IBS, a relationship may seem like something far out of reach. Guess what – it's not! It can be awkward to talk about your IBS symptoms in your current relationship, but here are some tips to make it less embarrassing.
As someone got married this past summer, I can tell you that it's absolutely not.
Of course talking to anyone about your bowels, your digestive system and your toilet habits can be awkward and a little bit embarrassing. It doesn't have to be.
'IBS Is a Really Big Part of Me'
The way I see it, my IBS is a really big part of me. A gross, inconvenient part, but it's a part of me nonetheless. I promised myself that I would never be in a relationship that couldn't accept that about me.
Luckily I have a wonderful fiancé who is supportive, and I find that it makes the whole situation a whole lot easier. Of course, no one can tell you that you have to tell someone, whether that be a significant other, a friend, or a family member.
However, it's important to remember that stress exacerbates the symptoms of IBS. The more you try and keep something hidden and locked away, the more likely you are to get stressed about it. As such, that becomes a massive cycle where you're stressed and your IBS flares up which stresses you out and your IBS flares up, and it's more to hide.
It might make you feel like there's no point in having a relationship.
Explain Your Struggles
One great thing about telling someone else about your IBS struggle is that they can help and support you. Whether that be you want to explain why you always have to run off to the bathroom after a big meal or perhaps you're nervous about using the toilet at their place for the first time.
I'm not saying this is great first date fodder or that it's something that should be discussed over the dinner table. However, if you do feel like you want to tell your significant other, partner or future love – then don't be shy and don't be ashamed.
Going to the toilet is something we all do, and you might surprise yourself and find someone else who's struggling in similar ways. Relationships work better when you are open and honest with someone.
Don't Try to Hide Your IBS
I have been in relationships in the past where I have tried to hide my IBS which has caused a lot more embarrassment than perhaps just being honest would have done, then maybe just being honest would have done. Where I've been open with the other person, and they've been disgusted by how honest and open I am.
Which of course to me was a sign that they were not right. If you're currently stuck on the fence and trying to decide whether it's time to tell someone about your struggles then let this be the sign that you need.
If you're worried that you'll never find love because of your dodgy bowels, I can attest, and I can absolutely promise that that is not the case. There's someone out there for everyone, and you deserve someone who loves you for you.
Let me know in the comments how you feel, whether you've decided to take the plunge and how that goes, or whether you have a supportive partner.
